If you've ever felt like you're "not good at healing," you're not alone. In this entry, I share a story from my mom that offers a tender metaphor for navigating the inevitable "potholes" of our healing journey. With humor, compassion, and curiosity, this piece invites a more forgiving and sustainable relationship with self-care, change, and inner growth.

Hypervigilance, pain catastrophizing, and avoidance are all natural responses to pain — and at the same time they can contribute to a pain-fear-avoidance cycle. Changing these behaviors, starting from a place of curious inquiry, can play a significant part in recovery.

Childhood adversity, depression, post-traumatic stress and personality traits can all play a role in chronic pain — and recovery. Healing is about experiencing a greater sense of agency, being in charge of our own healing, and reclaiming our lives.

Neuroplasticity means our brain is constantly learning, evolving and changing. The consequence of this is that whatever we repeat – thoughts, feelings, behaviors – will change the connections and structure of our brain.

The fact that your pain/symptom has been ‘chronic’ does not mean that it will last forever.