In-Depth Mindbody Assessment
for Chronic Pain & Other Persistent Symptoms
Make sense of your symptoms and find a clear path
to lasting healing and recovery
You’ve been living with chronic pain or other persistent symptoms,
and want a clearer understanding of what’s happening in your body, and how to find freedom
with expert guidance.
You’re ready to partner with someone who brings both professional expertise and lived experience, and can:
Help you make sense of what’s happening in your body and mind, and parse through the noise;
Explore how neuroplastic mechanisms might be affecting your symptoms through evidence-based education and a skilled, knowledgeable perspective;
Untangle lingering doubts about your symptoms and recovery, including questions about reversibility, the role of the nervous system, and how your experience can shift;
Support you in developing a coherent framework for understanding your symptoms, identifying patterns and key contributing factors, and gaining a perspective that makes sense for you and guides your next steps;
Offer a trauma-informed, weight inclusive perspective;
Address doubts, skepticism, and anxiety directly, and help you move toward clarity and confidence;
Walk alongside you as you find a steady and meaningful path toward healing and recovery in a way that honors all of you;
Help you grow in ease and wellbeing, and reconnect with the things that bring you joy, meaning, and fulfilment.
What’s included
Three 50-minute sessions. The first two sessions give us the time and space to explore your story, symptoms, needs, resources, and context in depth. We can identify patterns, explore whether a neuroplastic component may be contributing to your symptoms, and, when helpful, use gentle provocative exercises as developed by Dr. Howard Schubiner, with whom I am trained and certified, to bring additional insight. These sessions allow us to parse the complexity of your experience with nuance and precision, while fostering safety, trust, and clarity.
The third session focuses on integration. This is an opportunity to review what you’ve learned, answer any remaining questions, and clarify next steps for your healing and recovery.
Pre-session questionnaire to help me understand your background, in as much or as little detail as you’d like.
Personalized guidance. I’ll answer your questions, offer insights to help you make sense of what’s happening in your body and mind, and share practices and tools tailored to your needs, priorities, and wishes. You are your own healer, but you don’t have to figure things out alone.
Clear next steps for ongoing support. You’ll come away with a fuller picture of what might best support your healing. You’ll leave with practical guidance you can integrate independently, or with ongoing support—whether that’s continuing work with me or engaging another practitioner, including a referral if appropriate.
The investment for this in-depth assessment is £950.
Can’t find a time that works?
Email me and let’s see what we might open up.
Let’s explore how a mindbody approach can help you.
An in-depth assessment gives us the time and space to…
Understand Your Story
Our nervous system needs a baseline of safety to access curiosity and learning. We are relational beings, and kind, steady presence helps foster the trust needed to share openly.
Having enough time and space allows us to explore your story in depth. This helps bring in context and nuance, and makes it possible to see connections that might otherwise be missed.
It often takes a caring conversation to see more clearly what we already sense, especially when we’ve felt anxious, disconnected from our body, or unsure of what’s happening.
Make Sense of Your Symptoms Together
As we explore your story, we also look at whether your symptoms could have a neuroplastic origin or component. This process allows us to consider the role your brain and nervous system are playing in how symptoms are generated or maintained.
When helpful, we can use gentle provocative exercises as developed by Dr. Howard Schubiner, with whom I am trained and certified, to gain insight into symptom patterns. The goal is to move beyond labels, reduce confusion and fear, and bring more clarity about what’s happening in your body and mind, so you can move forward with greater confidence.
Clarify Next Steps for Healing and Recovery
After exploring your story and understanding your symptoms, we outline practical next steps that may support your healing. This includes guidance on practices, strategies, or approaches tailored to your needs, and discussion of options for ongoing support.
You can integrate these steps on your own, continue working with me, or with another practitioner—whether you’re already seeing someone or a referral makes sense for you. This step helps turn insight into actionable guidance for your ongoing recovery and well-being.
Important to Know
I am a physician and psychotherapist licensed in Mexico, with more than 25 years of clinical experience. I also have lived experience of recovery from a decade of persistent back pain through a mindbody approach.
I currently live in the United Kingdom. I am not registered with the UK General Medical Council (GMC) and I do not practise medicine in the UK.
I provide medical services in person in Mexico; I do not provide medical services remotely or outside Mexico. I offer psychotherapy services in person in Mexico, and remotely only to clients who are physically located in Mexico at the time of our sessions.
If you are located outside Mexico, our work together is educational in nature and is not medical or mental health diagnosis, treatment, prescription, or clinical care. It does not establish a doctor–patient or therapist–client relationship and is not a substitute for care from your doctor, psychotherapist, or other healthcare professional. You remain responsible for decisions about your health, including medications or treatment plans, which should always be discussed with your prescribing or treating clinician. Learn more.
What this means in practice:
I draw on my extensive medical and psychotherapy training and experience to help you understand complex information, clarify confusing or scary diagnoses, address doubts, and support more informed conversations with your healthcare providers.
I provide educational consultations rooted in evidence-based practice, always offered as mentoring and not as medical diagnosis, advice or treatment.
I bring my own lived experience of chronic pain, healing, and recovery.
I can help you:
Make sense of complex medical language;
Translate confusing or scary diagnoses or findings;
Integrate context and nuance in a way that reduces fear and overwhelm;
Explore how neuroplastic mechanisms may be contributing to your symptoms through evidence-based educational exploration;
Work through lingering doubts about your symptoms and recovery;
Gain clarity about the general principles, research, lived experience accounts, and guidelines related to medication tapering and deprescribing, to support informed conversations with your prescribing clinician;
Offer educational guidance that’s both accurate and compassionate.
Rather than spiral or get lost down rabbit holes of internet searches or worst-case scenarios, you gain access to insight, grounded education, and practical guidance rooted in expertise and evidence-based practice, as well as lived experience.
I’ve sat with people of all ages in moments of all-consuming fear and grief, physical vulnerability, emotional complexity, trauma responses, and profound transition, as well as moments of expansive joy, deep love, and the vibrant aliveness that can emerge even in the midst of loss and difficulty. I’ve also had plenty of practice with my own pain and recovery.
This has deepened my ability to stay present, attuned, and steady even in experiences that may feel especially intense, unsettling, triggering, or overwhelming.
You don’t have to go through those moments alone. I will meet what unfolds with radical presence, curiosity, clarity, and compassion.
Questions? Contact me.
A note from Lily
In case we haven’t met, I’m Dr. Lilia Graue, physician, psychotherapist, and mindbody healing mentor.
I’m also someone who’s recovered from over a decade of chronic back pain with the mindbody approach I now share with others.
For over 25 years, I've helped people around the world move toward greater wellbeing, ease, and freedom. In the past five years, my focus has been on guiding others to reclaim their lives from chronic pain and other persistent, disruptive symptoms. I do this through a mindbody approach—the same one that helped me recover and reconnect with my liveliness.
My clients are thoughtful, self-aware, resourceful people who are ready to engage differently with their symptoms, take ownership of their healing, and shift their relationship to what they’re experiencing. They’re seeking a deeper, more nuanced conversation that connects the dots in a way that feels coherent and grounded in their unique experience.
If you’re ready to explore whether your symptoms have a neuroplastic component, and how a mindbody approach can open a path toward lasting relief and healing,
I’m so glad you’re here.
You are not imagining your symptoms.
More importantly, they don’t have to define the rest of your life.
If you're living with chronic pain or disruptive symptoms, you have likely experienced how conventional pain management approaches can fall short.
You might have been told it’s all in your head. That you are incurable. That you need to just relax, just believe, or just take medication. Or that you have to get used to it and learn to manage because you’ll never be back to normal.
You might have found yourself navigating a maze of specialists, tests, and diagnoses that don’t offer clear explanations or a path forward. You may have faced invasive treatments or procedures with limited success rates and significant risks, adding fear and confusion to an already difficult journey.
This process can be confusing, frustrating, disempowering, and exhausting, especially when you’re trying to advocate for yourself in a system that doesn't fully see or support you.
If you’re here, you know something else is possible.
You know your current reality doesn’t have to define
what’s possible for your future.
You also know that pain and recovery are not separate from the spiritual, environmental, or cultural context of your life, and that your thoughts, emotions, and lived experiences can impact your body and mind in ways that show up as symptoms.
That is why I draw on science-backed tools, integrative approaches, and a deep understanding of how the nervous system, neuroplasticity, and mind-body processes influence symptoms. My approach is collaborative, clear, and blends structure with flexibility.
The courage, commitment, and patience this process requires are easier to sustain with a partner. I will be delighted to support you along this path.
Together, we will explore your symptoms in depth, develop insight into the patterns and contributing factors, and create a clear framework that helps you understand what is happening in your body and mind.
This understanding becomes a foundation for practical next steps that support lasting healing and recovery.
In this in-depth assessment, we will:
Go beyond simplistic approaches that either “biologize” or “psychologize” your symptoms, inviting a nuanced bio-psycho-social-contextual-spiritual understanding;
Move past fragmented, hyper-specialized care that misses the whole picture;
Center and validate your lived experience, rather than pathologizing it;
Help you make sense of your symptoms beyond labels and address contributing factors;
Integrate the best of science, mindbody work, compassionate inquiry, and more into a truly holistic approach;
Help you access agency and empowerment with practical strategies for greater ease and wellbeing;
Offer you a clear path toward healing and recovery.
Your current reality doesn’t have to define what’s possible for your future.
Can’t find a time that works?
Email me and let’s see what we might open up.
The key isn’t trying harder.
It’s doing things differently with holistic support.
I know the frustration of, “I’ve tried everything, nothing is working, what am I doing wrong?”
You couldn’t possibly try any harder. And you don’t have to.
Like me, and like most of the people I work with, you’ve probably seen countless physicians, therapists, and healers, many of them the best or most renowned in their fields. Maybe you’ve tried medications, acupuncture, massage, Reiki, diets, supplements, special pillows, orthotic devices, and biohacking routines. Maybe some of it helps you manage, but it all demands constant vigilance, putting ever-tighter bounds around life while symptoms persist.
I want you to know you’re not doing anything wrong.
Many of us have come to relate to our symptoms as something to be feared, fought, fixed, and figured out. And it is only human to want to make discomfort go away. Paradoxically, that tenacity and striving only amplify the danger signals, and in turn, more deeply entrench the bodymind’s protective response.
We might also have come to believe, within conventional medical models or broader health culture, that diagnoses are fixed entities, that they point to something intrinsically wrong or broken in our bodies and minds, leaving little room for hope.
As we engage in this exploration together, I will gently support you in inviting curiosity and a different understanding of your symptoms, opening a path toward recovery, so you can recover your freedom.
I work from a
collaborative, trauma-integrative approach.
We’ll co-create a space that moves at a gentle pace, so your nervous system can soften.
You’ll be supported in meeting your inner world with kind awareness and greater self-trust.
We’ll explore somatic, reflective, and relational practices attuned to your needs and boundaries.
This is not about “fixing” you or “improving” you.
It’s about returning to yourself, with tenderness and authenticity,
and with the tools and support to heal and build a life that honors you.
Skepticism is natural, valid, and welcome.
Your doubts belong too.
I know how hard you’ve tried. How many times you’ve been disappointed. And how you may be questioning if this approach can really help you when you’ve been so impaired by your symptoms for so long.
That’s fair.
I began this work skeptical too. Bedridden, told by doctors that managing pain was the best I could hope for. Exhausted after trying so many treatments.
If you’re in that place, I understand. I know the vulnerability of opening ourselves up to hope, and I honor the parts of you that want to protect you from disappointment.
And I invite skepticism to join us as we gently explore different possibilities for healing, growing, and living.
Curious about working together,
but not ready for a full intake just yet?
If you'd like to have the time and space to get to know me, ask questions, and build a foundation of trust and comfort with me before sharing your story in depth, you can opt for a standalone 50-minute session.
After this consulting call you can choose to add the two remaining sessions for a full intake, or proceed with a 6-month mentoring program.
START WITH:
The Wayfinding Session
Because this work is nuanced and deeply personal, even the first step deserves time and care.
So that we can thoughtfully and spaciously explore what may be most supportive for you, I offer a one-time, 50-minute session for a single payment, with zero pressure to continue. It’s a chance to arrive fully, look into some of your questions with care, and explore whether working together feels right.
Before our session, I’ll ask that you answer a few questions to get a better sense of the kind of support you are seeking, in as much or as little detail as feels supportive to you.
While we won’t have time to unravel every question or turn every page in your story, you can expect to walk away with:
Personalized insight into your unique experience of pain or symptoms, what might be contributing, what your body may be communicating, and where we might begin to invite more ease;
Clarity on the kind of support that would best meet your needs at this point in your healing journey;
Thoughtful guidance toward another practitioner or path, if working together isn’t the most supportive next step.
Investment £350
After this session, you have the option to move forward with two more sessions for the in-depth assessment package, with a remaining balance of £600.
Alternatively, you can choose to credit this fee toward my 6-month mentoring program within the next 14 days.
Can’t find a time that works?
Email me and let’s see what we might open up.
Make sense of your symptoms. Restore safety. Reweave neural pathways.
I would be honored to walk alongside you as you make sense of your experience
so you can reclaim your freedom, your vitality, and your life.
Or click here to start with a Wayfinding Session.
FAQs
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I don’t offer complimentary discovery calls, and I’d love to share why.
This work is nuanced and complex. In my experience, 15–30 minutes isn’t enough time for your nervous system to settle, for me to meaningfully understand your experience, or for either of us to assess fit with the care it deserves. Those short sessions can end up feeling rushed, and don’t allow for the kind of presence I value at every stage of this work.
Rather than offer a brief call that risks feeling transactional or performative, I invite you to begin with a Wayfinding Session, a one-time, 50-minute paid session. This is not a sales pitch. It’s a chance to arrive fully, explore some of your questions with care, and explore whether working together feels right and if so, at what pace.
While I won’t be able to answer every question you might have or dive into every aspect of your story in just one session, what I can do is offer perspective, insight, and clarity about possible next steps. If it’s a fit, we can continue. And if not, I’ll point you toward thoughtful referrals or resources that may better serve you.
Click here to book your Wayfinding Session.
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Click here to review a list of symptoms and diagnoses commonly associated with neuroplastic/nociplastic pain and symptoms (also known as TMS/mindbody) arising from sensitized neural pathways and conditioned responses, rather than ongoing injury, illness, or structural damage. If you are experiencing one or more of the symptoms or have been diagnosed with a condition included in this list, recovery is possible, and exploring a mindbody approach can open new pathways toward healing.
Beyond the list, my personal experience and over 25 years of practicing medicine and psychotherapy have shown me over and over again that people across a wide range of experiences can grow in ease, wellbeing, and liveliness through a mindbody approach. Even in the presence of illnesses in which a genetic or biological aspect is more prominent (i.e. “structural” conditions, including musculoskeletal injuries, neurodegenerative diseases, autoimmune conditions, and cancer), we can harness the power of bioplasticity to enhance health and resilience and live more fully.
If you’re curious to explore working together and want to ask about your particular condition, you can either get in touch here or book a standalone Wayfinding Session.
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Once you book your first session, you will receive a questionnaire from me. The questionnaire is thorough, and invites you to share as much or as little as you want. My clients usually share that they develop important insights through the process of answering the questions. And your responses help me develop a deeper and more nuanced understanding of who you are, what matters to you, what connects you with purpose and joy, what you want and need, the context of your lived experience, the resources you have access to, your symptom patterns, and other aspects that can open possibilities for healing and recovery.
The assessment includes three 50 minute sessions, and each session is shaped by your needs.
The first two sessions give us the time and space to explore your story, symptoms, needs, resources, and context in depth. We can identify patterns, clarify whether a neuroplastic component may be contributing to your symptoms, and, when helpful, use gentle provocative exercises as developed by Dr. Howard Schubiner, with whom I am trained and certified, to bring additional insight. These sessions allow us to parse the complexity of your experience with nuance and precision, while fostering safety, trust, and clarity.
The third session focuses on integration. This is an opportunity to review what you’ve learned, answer any remaining questions, and clarify next steps for your healing and recovery.
In each session, we might start with a body-based practice to help your nervous system access safety and trust as we go, or go straight into conversation: your choice.
We may explore education around pain science or nervous system regulation, bring awareness to stuck patterns, offer space to explore the connection between your symptoms and emotions that have been hard to access or express, identify parts of you that are yearning to be seen, heard, and tended to, and address anxiety or doubts about diagnoses you’ve received, treatments you’re engaging in, and your mindbody healing journey.
Sometimes sessions are more spacious and reflective. Others are more structured or directed. Always, we’ll work collaboratively, and move at the pace your bodymind can integrate, honoring what you want and need from our work together.
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The in-depth mind-body assessment takes place across three sessions, and the pacing is flexible. Most people schedule the second session about one week after the first. The third session is often scheduled a couple of weeks later, allowing time for integration, reflection, and for new questions or insights to emerge after our initial exploration.
You are always invited to choose the frequency and pace that feel most supportive for you, within the limits of my availability and scheduling calendar.
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Our work together will be focused within our scheduled sessions. This boundary supports the depth and sustainability of the care I provide, and also honors your capacity to integrate the work between sessions.
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If you’re new to my work, I offer the choice between the in-depth assessment or a one-time Wayfinding Session as a first step to:
get started with one of my mentoring pathways in support of your healing and recovery
have the time and space to get to know me, ask questions, and build a foundation of trust and comfort with me before sharing your story in depth.
After the Wayfinding Session, you can choose to continue with the remaining two sessions that complete the full in-depth assessment, or opt for one of my mentorship programs.
The investment for the Wayfinding Session is £350.
If you choose to continue with the in-depth assessment, the remaining balance for the two additional sessions is £600.
Alternatively, you may credit the Wayfinding Session fee toward my 6-month mentoring program within the next 14 days. This credit does not apply to the 3-month flexible mentoring format.
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As part of my commitment to equity and sustainability, I offer a limited number of sliding scale spots, prioritized for those living in countries with lower average incomes and limited access to welfare or social security systems.
For this specific offering (in-depth mind-body assessment), I offer up to 2 sliding scale spots each month. If the full cost of the assessment is prohibitive for you, you can apply for a sliding scale spot here.
I also offer a growing library of free resources and practices, as well as periodic free or low-cost workshops. If you'd like to stay connected and be the first to hear when new offerings become available, you're warmly invited to join my mailing list. I’d love to share these resources with you.
My rates are structured with care and intention to reflect the time, expertise, presence, and labor — emotional, intellectual, and somatic — that this work requires, while also sustaining my practice and meeting my financial needs and responsibilities, including caregiving for my elders in Mexico. This allows me to continue working in a sustainable way.
Fair compensation for care work, particularly for women and practitioners from historically excluded communities, is part of the more just world I’m working toward.
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If you believe you're dealing with a new, acute, or urgent medical issue, it's important to consult a licensed healthcare provider in your country.
While I do not diagnose or provide medical treatment in the context of mentorship, I bring decades of medical and psychotherapeutic experience into our work. I can offer education, context, and perspective to help you better understand your symptoms and have more informed conversations with your care team.
Often, people with neuroplastic symptoms experience significant anxiety around health, even after different specialists have ruled out significant concerns, and with multiple lab/imaging results that are within the normal or expected range. They can find themselves caught in a loop or story that there is something terribly wrong that just hasn’t been found yet. If this sounds like you, the symptoms and anxiety you’re experiencing can be different manifestations of the fear-pain/symptom cycle that may be addressed, and can change meaningfully, through a mindbody approach and neural repatterning practices. We can explore this together.
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Yes. Many of my clients experience mental health challenges, or have received psychiatric diagnoses, including depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress, and find this work deeply supportive.
In fact, many symptoms in the realm of mental health can be understood in different ways from a mindbody and person-centered perspective. We can conceive them as understandable manifestations of distress and protective mechanisms, making sense of them in a way that honors your unique story, context, and culture. I don’t believe our challenges are signs of something broken or disordered, but rather meaningful responses to the complexities of our life and environment.
Together, we’ll explore what’s arising with curiosity and compassion, creating space for insight, healing, and change that’s rooted in connection, not labels.
It’s important to note that while I bring decades of experience as a physician and psychotherapist to our work, the nature of this assessment depends on where you are located. For clients physically located in Mexico, this work may form part of clinical care within my professional licensure. For clients outside Mexico, this assessment is educational and consultative in nature, and I do not diagnose or provide treatment for medical or mental health conditions. I offer deep presence, education, nervous system and trauma-integrative support, and collaborative meaning-making.
If you’re in active crisis or require clinical mental health care, it’s important that you work alongside a licensed therapist, psychiatrist, or appropriate medical provider as part of your support system.
There are also situations that fall outside the scope of my practice. I do not work with individuals experiencing active suicidal ideation, substance use disorders, bipolar disorder, psychotic disorders such as schizophrenia or schizoaffective disorder, or other severe mental illnesses.
If at any point it becomes clear that you would benefit from a different level, type, or structure of support than what I offer within my scope of practice, I will encourage you to seek additional or alternative care and may discontinue our work together if this format is no longer appropriate.
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I am not in-network with any insurance providers. Eligibility for reimbursement varies depending on the type of service, your insurer, and your individual policy. You may contact your insurer directly if you wish to confirm your specific coverage.
I provide a standard payment receipt reflecting the nature of the service as described in the Scope of Services section of my Terms & Conditions. I do not provide superbills, insurance claim forms, diagnostic or procedural codes, or additional documentation for insurance purposes beyond this standard receipt.
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While I only offer clinical care as a physician and psychotherapist to individuals in Mexico, I bring those lenses — and that extensive training and experience — into every session of pain recovery mentorship.
This means I can help you:
Make sense of complex medical language;
Translate confusing or scary diagnoses or findings;
Integrate context and nuance in a way that reduces fear and overwhelm;
Offer educational guidance that’s both accurate and compassionate.
Rather than spiral or get lost down rabbit holes of internet searches or worst-case scenarios, you gain access to insight, grounded education, and practical guidance rooted in expertise and evidence-based practice.
After 25 years of practicing medicine and psychotherapy, I am deeply comfortable with the full range of human experience, from health to debilitating illness, from uncertain prognosis to end of life, and from deep challenge to thriving through connection, creativity, and purpose.
I’ve sat with people of all ages in moments of all-consuming fear and grief, physical vulnerability, emotional complexity, trauma responses, and profound transition, as well as moments of expansive joy, deep love, and the vibrant aliveness that can emerge even in the midst of loss and difficulty.
This has deepened my ability to stay present, attuned, and steady even in experiences that may feel especially intense, unsettling, triggering, or overwhelming.
You don’t have to go through those moments alone. I will meet what unfolds with radical presence, curiosity, clarity, and compassion.
If there’s something I haven’t covered here that you’d like to ask me, contact me.
Our Bodyminds Know Ease.
Let’s Weave It Together.
Or click here to start with a Wayfinding Session.
Can’t find a time that works?
Email me and let’s see what we might open up.
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