In Depth Assessment
for Chronic Pain & Other Persistent Symptoms

Make sense of your symptoms and find a clear path
to lasting healing and recovery

You’ve been living with chronic pain or other persistent symptoms,
and want a
clearer understanding of what’s happening in your body, and how to find freedom
with expert guidance
.

You are…

  • Looking for experienced insight beyond diagnoses that don’t really get to the root of your symptoms, and treatments that provide only limited or temporary relief, or even make things worse;

  • Feeling overwhelmed with the number of suggestions, resources, and possibilities, and wanting to find clarity;

  • Wondering whether a neuroplastic component is playing a role in your symptoms, and to what extent;

  • Getting stuck with anxious doubts about the role that neuroplasticity plays in your symptoms — or your recovery: Is this really TMS/neuroplastic? What if there is something terribly wrong with my body and they just haven’t found it yet? What if I am too far gone?

  • Already working with a mindbody practitioner or approach (or even tried several), but not really seeing the change you’re yearning for;

  • Confused after everything you’ve heard and read;

  • Exhausted after trying so many things, and perhaps even afraid of hoping;

  • Wanting to figure out whether and how a mindbody approach can help you.

You’re ready to partner with someone who brings both professional expertise and lived experience, and can:

  • Help you make sense of what’s happening in your body and mind, and parse through the noise;

  • Identify how neuroplastic mechanisms are affecting your symptoms through evidence-based assessment and a skilled, knowledgeable perspective;

  • Work through lingering doubts about your symptoms and recovery, including questions about reversibility, nervous system effects, and the changes you’re noticing in your body;

  • Develop a coherent framework for understanding your symptoms, identifying patterns and key contributing factors, and gaining a perspective that makes sense for you and guides your next steps; 

  • Address doubts, skepticism, and anxiety directly, and help you move toward clarity and confidence;

  • Find a steady and meaningful path forward to lasting healing and recovery in a way that honors all of you; 

  • Help you grow in ease and wellbeing,
    so you can step into the freedom to do the things that bring you joy, meaning, and fulfilment.

Can’t find a time that works?
Email me and let’s see what we might open up.

Let’s explore how a mindbody approach can help you.

An in-depth assessment gives us the time and space to…

Understand Your Story

Our nervous system needs a baseline of safety to access curiosity and learning. We are relational beings, and kind, steady presence helps foster the trust needed to share openly.

Having enough time and space allows us to explore your story in depth. This helps bring in context and nuance, and makes it possible to see connections that might otherwise be missed.

It often takes a caring conversation to see more clearly what we already sense, especially when we’ve felt anxious, disconnected from our body, or unsure of what’s happening.

Make Sense of Your Symptoms Together

As we explore your story, we also look at whether your symptoms may have a neuroplastic origin or component. This process allows us to consider the role your brain and nervous system might be playing in how symptoms are generated or maintained.

When helpful, we can use gentle provocative testing, as developed by Dr. Howard Schubiner, with whom I am trained and certified, to clarify this further. The goal is to move beyond labels, reduce confusion and fear, and bring more clarity about what’s happening in your body and mind, so you can move forward with greater confidence.

Clarify Next Steps for Lasting Healing and Recovery

After exploring your story and understanding your symptoms, we outline practical next steps that may support your healing. This includes guidance on practices, strategies, or approaches tailored to your needs, and discussion of options for ongoing support.

You can use these steps on your own, continue working with me, or, if relevant, with another practitioner—whether you’re already seeing someone or would like a referral. This step helps turn insight into actionable guidance for your ongoing recovery and well-being.

What’s included

  • Three 50-minute sessions. The first two sessions give us the time and space to explore your story, symptoms, needs, resources, and context in depth. We can identify patterns, clarify whether a neuroplastic component may be contributing to your symptoms, and, when helpful, use gentle provocative testing as developed by Dr. Howard Schubiner, with whom I am trained and certified, to bring additional insight. These sessions allow us to parse the complexity of your experience with nuance and precision, while fostering safety, trust, and clarity.

    The third session focuses on integration. This is an opportunity to review what you’ve learned, answer any remaining questions, and clarify next steps for your healing and recovery.

  • Pre-session questionnaire to help me understand your background, in as much or as little detail as you’d like.

  • Personalized guidance. I’ll answer your questions, offer insights to help you make sense of what’s happening in your body and mind, and share practices and tools tailored to your needs, priorities, and wishes. You are your own healer, but you don’t have to figure things out alone. 

  • Clear next steps for ongoing support. You’ll come away with a fuller picture of what would best support your healing. You’ll leave with practical guidance that you can use independently, or with ongoing support—whether that’s continuing work with me or engaging another practitioner, including a referral if appropriate.

The investment for this in-depth assessment is £950.

Important to Know

I am licensed to practise medicine and psychotherapy in Mexico and have more than 25 years of clinical experience. I have also fully recovered from a decade of persistent back pain through a mindbody approach.

The services I provide outside of Mexico are educational and mentorship-based, not medical care. Unless you are a permanent resident of Mexico physically located in Mexico at the time of our sessions, our work does not establish a doctor–patient or therapist–client relationship. Learn more. You remain responsible for your own health decisions and for maintaining care with licensed health professionals in your place of residence.

What this means in practice:

  • I draw on my extensive medical and psychotherapy training and experience to help you understand complex information, clarify confusing or scary diagnoses, address doubts, and support more informed conversations with your healthcare providers.

  • I provide education and guidance rooted in evidence-based practice, always offered as mentorship and not as medical advice or treatment.

  • I bring my own lived experience of chronic pain, healing, and recovery.

  • I can help you: 

    • Make sense of complex medical language, 

    • Translate confusing or scary diagnoses or findings, 

    • Integrate context and nuance in a way that reduces fear and overwhelm, 

    • Identify how neuroplastic mechanisms are affecting your symptoms through evidence-based assessment,

    • Work through lingering doubts about your symptoms and recovery,

    • Gain clarity on the process of deprescribing or tapering off medications to support informed, empowered conversations with your healthcare provider,

    • And offer guidance and education that’s both accurate and compassionate. 

    Rather than spiral or get lost down rabbit holes of internet searches or worst-case scenarios, you gain access to insight, grounded education, and practical guidance rooted in expertise and evidence-based practice, as well as lived experience.

    I’ve sat with people of all ages in moments of all-consuming fear and grief, physical vulnerability, emotional complexity, trauma responses, and profound transition, as well as moments of expansive joy, deep love, and the vibrant aliveness that can emerge even in the midst of loss and difficulty. I’ve also had plenty of practice with my own pain and recovery.

    This has deepened my ability to stay present, attuned, and steady even in experiences that may feel especially intense, unsettling, triggering, or overwhelming. 

    You don’t have to go through those moments alone. I will meet whatever unfolds with radical presence, curiosity, clarity, and compassion.

Questions? Contact me.

  • "Turning on a light and illuminating a path toward healing..."

    “Lily is gentle, kind, and caring, she offers a genuinely judgment-free and empathetic space. Additionally, the depth of her knowledge and expertise is unmistakable.

    After 16 years of enduring chronic pain and repeatedly feeling misunderstood in healthcare settings, I felt helpless and hopeless. Lily helped me understand the role of my brain and nervous system in pain and recovery, shared resources that resonated with my experience, and supported me with practices to help me find balance through graded exposure, easing back into activities I love but had been avoiding.

    Working with her has been like turning on a light, helping me make sense of my past and present, become kinder and more compassionate toward myself, and illuminating a clear path toward healing. I’ll be eternally grateful.”

    Violeta

A note from Lily

In case we haven’t met, I’m Dr. Lilia Graue, physician, psychotherapist, and mindbody healing mentor. 

I’m also someone who’s recovered from over a decade of chronic back pain with the mindbody approach I now share with others.

For over 25 years, I've helped people around the world move toward greater wellbeing, ease, and freedom. In the past five years, my focus has been on guiding others to reclaim their lives from chronic pain and other persistent, disruptive symptoms. I do this through a mindbody approach—the same one that helped me recover and reconnect with my liveliness.

My clients often find me when they are frustrated, and maybe even feeling hopeless, because they have been seeking relief for years, but haven’t found someone who will really listen and help them connect the dots for their unique situation. 

If you’re ready to explore if your symptoms have a neuroplastic component, and, most of all, how a mindbody approach can help you find lasting relief and healing,

I’m so glad you’re here, so you can discover your path forward toward recovery. 

You are not imagining your symptoms.
More importantly, you don’t have to live with them forever.

If you're living with chronic pain or disruptive symptoms, you have likely experienced how the medical system can fall short.

You might have been told it’s all in your head. That you are incurable. That you need to just relax, just believe, or take medication. Or that you have to get used to it and learn to manage because you’ll never be back to normal. 

You might have found yourself navigating a maze of specialists, tests, and vague diagnoses with no real path forward. You may have faced invasive treatments or procedures with low success rates and high risks, adding fear and confusion to an already difficult journey.

This process can be confusing, frustrating, disempowering, and exhausting, especially when you’re advocating for yourself in a system that doesn't truly see or support you.

If you’re here, you know something else is possible.
You know your current reality doesn’t have to define
what’s possible for your future.
 

You also know that pain and recovery cannot be separated from the spiritual, environmental, or cultural context of your life, and that your thoughts, emotions, and lived experiences can impact your body and mind in ways that show up as symptoms.

That is why I use science-backed tools, integrative approaches, and a deep understanding of how the nervous system, neuroplasticity, and mind-body interactions influence symptoms. My approach is collaborative, clear, and blends structure with flexibility.

The courage, commitment, and patience this process requires are easier to sustain with a partner. I consider it my privilege and responsibility to support you on your path.

Together, we will explore your symptoms in depth, uncover the patterns and contributing factors, and create a clear framework that helps you understand what is happening in your body and mind.

This understanding gives you practical guidance for steps that support lasting healing and recovery.

In this in-depth assessment:

  • We will go beyond simplistic approaches that either “biologize” or “psychologize” your symptoms, inviting a nuanced bio-psycho-social-contextual-spiritual understanding;

  • Move past fragmented, hyper-specialized care that misses the whole picture;

  • Center and validate your lived experience, rather than pathologizing it;

  • Help you make sense of your symptoms beyond labels and address the root cause;

  • Integrate the best of science, mindbody work, compassionate inquiry, and more into a truly holistic approach;

  • Help you access agency and empowerment with practical strategies for greater ease and wellbeing;

  • Offer you a clear path toward recovery.

Your current reality doesn’t have to define what’s possible for your future.

Can’t find a time that works?

Email me and let’s see what we might open up.

The key isn’t trying harder. 

It’s doing things differently with holistic support.   

I know the frustration of, “I’ve tried everything, nothing is working, what am I doing wrong?” 

You couldn’t possibly try any harder. And you don’t have to.  

Like me, and like most of the people I work with, you’ve probably seen countless physicians, therapists, and healers, many of them the “best” or most renowned in their fields. Maybe you’ve tried medications, acupuncture, massage, Reiki, diets, supplements, special pillows, orthotic devices, and biohacking routines. Maybe some of it helps you manage, but it all demands constant vigilance, putting ever-tighter bounds around life while symptoms persist. 

I want you to know you’re not doing anything wrong. 

Mainstream Medicine has conditioned us to relate to our symptoms as something to be feared, fought, fixed, and figured out. And it is only human to want to make discomfort go away. Paradoxically, that tenacity and striving only amplify the danger signals, and in turn, more deeply entrench the bodymind’s protective response. 

Mainstream Medicine has also convinced us that diagnoses are fixed entities, that they point to something intrinsically wrong or broken in our bodies and minds, leaving little room for hope.

As we engage in this exploration together, I will gently support you in inviting curiosity and a different understanding of your symptoms, with a clear path toward recovery, so you can recover your freedom.  

I work from a
collaborative, trauma-integrative approach.

We’ll co-create a space that moves at a gentle pace, so your nervous system can soften.

  • You’ll be supported in meeting your inner world with kind awareness and greater self-trust.

  • We’ll explore somatic, reflective, and relational practices attuned to your needs and boundaries

This is not about “fixing” you or “improving” you.
It’s about returning to yourself, with tenderness, with authenticity,
and with the tools and support to heal and build a life that honors you.

Learn more about my approach.

Skepticism is natural, valid, and welcome. 

Your doubts belong too. 

I know how hard you’ve tried. How many times you’ve been disappointed. And how you may be questioning if this approach can really help you when you’ve been so impaired by your symptoms for so long. 

That’s fair. The path isn’t always easy.

I began this work skeptical too. Bedridden, told by doctors that “managing” pain was the best I could hope for. Exhausted after trying so many treatments.

If you’re in that place, I understand. I know the tenderness and vulnerability of opening ourselves up to hope, and I honor the parts of you that want to protect you from disappointment. 

And I invite skepticism to join us as we gently explore different possibilities for healing, growing, and living.  

Curious about working together,
but not ready for a full intake just yet? 

If you'd like to have the time and space to get to know me, ask questions, and build a foundation of trust and comfort with me before sharing your story in depth, you can opt for a standalone 50-minute session. 

After this consulting call you can choose to add the two remaining sessions for a full intake, or proceed with a 6-month mentoring program.

START WITH:

The Wayfinding Session 

Because this work is nuanced and deeply personal, even the first step deserves time and care.

So that we can explore spaciously and arrive at an honest assessment of what’s best for you, I offer a one-time, 50-minute session for a single payment, with zero pressure to continue. It’s a chance to arrive fully, look into some of your questions with care, and explore whether working together feels right.

Before our session, I’ll ask that you answer a few questions to get a better sense of the kind of support you are seeking, in as much or as little detail as feels supportive to you.

While we won’t have time to unravel every question or turn every page in your story, you can expect to walk away with: 

  • Personalized insight into your unique experience of pain or symptoms, what might be contributing, what your body may be communicating, and where we might begin to invite more ease.

  • Clarity on the kind of support that would serve you best at this point in your healing journey

  • Thoughtful guidance toward another practitioner or path, if working together isn’t the most supportive next step

Investment £350 

After this session, you have the option to move forward with two more sessions for the in-depth assessment package, with a remaining balance of £600.
Alternatively, you can choose to credit this fee toward my 6-month mentoring program within the next 14 days.

Can’t find a time that works?

Email me and let’s see what we might open up.

Understand the root of your symptoms. Restore safety. Reweave neural pathways.

I would be honored to walk alongside you as you make sense of your experience
so you can reclaim your freedom, your vitality, and your life.

Or click here to start with a Wayfinding Session.

FAQs

  • I don’t offer complimentary discovery calls, and I’d love to share why.

    This work is nuanced and complex. In my experience, 15–30 minutes isn’t enough time for your nervous system to settle, for me to meaningfully understand your experience, or for either of us to assess fit with the care it deserves. Those short sessions can end up feeling rushed, and don’t allow for the kind of presence I value at every stage of this work.

    In case the intake feels a bit too much to begin with, and you'd like to have the time and space to get to know me, ask questions, and build a foundation of trust and comfort with me before sharing your story in depth, you can opt for a standalone 50-minute Wayfinding Session. Rather than offer a brief call that risks feeling transactional or performative, this is a chance to arrive fully, explore some of your questions with care, and explore whether working together feels right and if so, at what pace. 

    While I won’t be able to answer every question you might have or dive into every aspect of your story in just one session, what I can do is offer perspective, insight, and clarity about next steps. If it’s a fit, we can continue. And if not, I’ll point you toward thoughtful referrals or resources that may better serve you. 

    After this session, you have the option to move forward with two more sessions for the in-depth assessment package, with a remaining balance of £600.
    Alternatively, you can choose to credit this fee toward my 6-month mentoring program within the next 14 days.

    Click here to book your Wayfinding Session.

  • Click here to review a list of symptoms and diagnoses commonly associated with neuroplastic/nociplastic pain and symtoms (also known as TMS/mindbody) arising from sensitized neural pathways and conditioned responses, rather than ongoing injury, illness, or structural damage. If you are experiencing one or more of the symptoms or have been diagnosed with a condition included in this list, there is hope for full recovery through a mindbody approach. 

    Beyond the list, my personal experience and over 25 years of practicing medicine and psychotherapy have shown me over and over again that anyone and everyone can grow in ease, wellbeing and liveliness through a mindbody approach. Even in the presence of illnesses in which a genetic or biological aspect is more prominent (.i.e. “structural” conditions, including musculoskeletal injuries, neurodegenerative diseases, autoimmune conditions, and cancer), we can harness the power of bioplasticity to enhance health and resilience and live more fully. 

    If you’re curious to explore working together and want to ask about your particular condition, you can either get in touch here or book a standalone Wayfinding Session

  • Once you book your first session, you will receive a questionnaire from me. The questionnaire is thorough, and invites you to share as much or as little as you want. My clients usually share that they develop important insights through the process of answering the questions. And your responses help me develop a deeper and more nuanced understanding of who you are, what matters to you, what connects you with purpose and joy, what you want and need, the context of your lived experience, the resources you have access to, your symptom patterns, and other aspects that can open possibilities for healing and recovery.

    The assessment includes three 50 minute sessions, and each session is shaped by your needs.

    The first two sessions give us the time and space to explore your story, symptoms, needs, resources, and context in depth. We can identify patterns, clarify whether a neuroplastic component may be contributing to your symptoms, and, when helpful, use gentle provocative testing as developed by Dr. Howard Schubiner, with whom I am trained and certified, to bring additional insight. These sessions allow us to parse the complexity of your experience with nuance and precision, while fostering safety, trust, and clarity.

    The third session focuses on integration. This is an opportunity to review what you’ve learned, answer any remaining questions, and clarify next steps for your healing and recovery.

    In each session, we might start with a body based practice to help your nervous system access safety and trust as we go, or go straight into conversation: your choice.

    We may explore education around pain science or nervous system regulation, bring awareness to stuck patterns, offer space to explore the connection between your symptoms and emotions that have been hard to access or express, identify parts of you that are yearning to be seen, heard, and tended to, and address anxiety or doubts about diagnoses you’ve received, treatments you’re engaging in, and your mindbody healing journey.

    Sometimes sessions are more spacious and reflective. Others are more structured or directed. Always, we’ll work collaboratively, and move at the pace your bodymind can integrate and honoring what you want and need from our work together.

  • Our work together will be focused within our scheduled sessions. This boundary supports the depth and sustainability of the care I provide, and also honors your capacity to integrate the work between sessions.

  • If you’re new to my work, I offer the choice between the in-depth assessment or a one-time Wayfinding Session as a first step to:

    • get started with my 6-month mentoring pathway to support your healing and recovery

    • have the time and space to get to know me, ask questions, and build a foundation of trust and comfort with me before sharing your story in depth.

    After this consulting call you can choose to add the two remaining sessions for a full intake, or proceed with the 6-month mentoring program to heal and Reclaim Your Life.

    The investment for the Wayfinding Session is £350.

    You then have the option to move forward with two more sessions for the in-depth assessment package, with a remaining balance of £600.

    Alternatively, you can choose to credit this fee toward my 6-month mentoring program within the next 14 days.

  • If you believe you're dealing with a new, acute, or urgent medical issue, it's important to consult a licensed healthcare provider in your country.

    While I cannot diagnose or treat you medically in the context of mentorship, I bring decades of medical and psychotherapeutic experience into our work. I can offer education, context, and perspective to help you better understand your symptoms and have more informed conversations with your care team.

    Often, people with neuroplastic symptoms experience significant anxiety around health, even after different specialists have ruled out significant concerns, and with multiple lab/imaging results that are within the normal or expected range. They can find themselves caught in a loop or story that there is something terribly wrong that just hasn’t been found yet. If this sounds like you, the symptoms and anxiety you’re experiencing can be different manifestations of the fear-pain/symptom cycle that may be addressed, and healed, through a mindbody approach and neural repatterning practices. We can explore this together.

  • Yes. Many of my clients experience mental health challenges, or have received psychiatric diagnoses, including depression, anxiety, and post traumatic stress, and find this work deeply supportive.

    In fact, many of the symptoms in the realm of mental health can be understood in different ways from a mindbody and person-centered perspective. We can conceive them as understandable manifestations of distress and protective mechanisms, making sense of them in a way that honors your unique story, context, and culture. I don’t believe our challenges are signs of something broken or disordered, but rather meaningful responses to the complexities of our life and environment.

    Together, we’ll explore what’s arising with curiosity and compassion, creating space for insight, healing, and change that’s rooted in connection, not labels.

    It’s important to note that while I bring decades of experience as a physician and psychotherapist to our work, my role in this assessment is not to diagnose or treat mental health conditions. I offer deep presence, education, nervous system and trauma-integrative support, and collaborative meaning-making.

    If you’re in active crisis or in need of clinical mental health care, I may encourage you to work alongside a licensed therapist or psychiatrist as part of your support system.

  • While I only offer clinical care as a physician and psychotherapist to residents of Mexico, I bring those lenses, and that extensive training and experience, into every session of pain recovery mentorship.

    This means I can help you:

    • Make sense of complex medical language, 

    • Translate confusing or scary diagnoses or findings, 

    • Integrate context and nuance in a way that reduces fear and overwhelm, 

    • Identify how neuroplastic mechanisms are affecting your symptoms through evidence-based assessment,

    • Work through lingering doubts about your symptoms and recovery,

    • Gain clarity on the process of deprescribing or tapering off medications to support informed, empowered conversations with your healthcare provider,

    • And offer guidance and education that’s both accurate and compassionate. 

    Rather than spiral or get lost down rabbit holes of internet searches or worst-case scenarios, you gain access to insight, grounded education, and practical guidance rooted in expertise and evidence-based practice.

    After 25 years of practicing medicine and psychotherapy, I am deeply comfortable with the full range of human experience, from health to debilitating illness, from uncertain prognosis to end of life, and from deep challenge to thriving through connection, creativity, and purpose.

    I’ve sat with people of all ages in moments of all-consuming fear and grief, physical vulnerability, emotional complexity, trauma responses, and profound transition, as well as moments of expansive joy, deep love, and the vibrant aliveness that can emerge even in the midst of loss and difficulty. And I’ve had plenty of personal practice with my own healing and recovery journey.

    This has deepened my ability to stay present, attuned, and steady even in experiences that may feel especially intense, unsettling, triggering, or overwhelming. 

    You don’t have to go through those moments alone. I will meet whatever unfolds with radical presence, curiosity, clarity, and compassion.

    Schedule your Wayfinding Session.

  • Yes. As part of my commitment to equity and sustainability, I offer as many sliding scale spots as I can while still meeting my needs, with priority given to those in countries with lower income and limited or no access to welfare or social security. At this time, all spots are full, and there is a waitlist.

    You're warmly invited to join the waitlist. When you do, you'll receive a curated list of trusted, like-minded practitioners who may currently have availability at a lower rate.

    I also offer a growing library of free resources and practices, as well as periodic free or low-cost workshops. If you'd like to stay connected and be the first to hear when new offerings become available, you're warmly invited to join my mailing list. I’d love to share these resources with you.

    My rates are structured with care and intention to reflect the time, expertise, presence, and deep labor — emotional, intellectual, and somatic — that this work requires, while also sustaining my practice and meeting my financial needs and responsibilities, including caregiving for my elders in Mexico. This allows me to continue showing up fully and sustainably for those I serve.  

    Fair compensation for care work, especially when offered by women and practitioners from historically excluded communities, is part of the more just world I’m working toward.

  • I am not in-network with any insurance providers. 

    Depending on where you live, and on your insurer, you may be able to receive some reimbursement if your policy has out-of-network benefits. In order to do this, you will be required to have your Primary Care Practitioner provide a diagnosis for you, and approve in writing the services you’ll be receiving from me. 

    It is best to call your insurance company to find out what your benefits are, to see if you are eligible for reimbursement. 

If there’s something I haven’t covered here that you’d like to ask me, contact me.

Our Bodyminds Know Ease.

Let’s Weave It Together.

Or click here to start with a Wayfinding Session.

Can’t find a time that works?
Email me and let’s see what we might open up.

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