“I’m Not Good at Healing”: Learning to Steer with Kindness

If you've ever felt like you're "not good at healing," you're not alone. In this entry, I share a story from my mom that offers a tender metaphor for navigating the inevitable "potholes" of our healing journey. With humor, compassion, and curiosity, this piece invites a more forgiving and sustainable relationship with self-care, change, and inner growth.

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On First Tries, Sticky Dough, and Letting Go of Imperfectionism as We Heal

What sticky dough, lopsided loaves, and a very persistent inner critic showed me about healing. It isn’t about getting it perfect, but about showing up human, curious, and kind. Whether you're on your own healing path or supporting others, I hope this story offers some permission to soften, invite playfulness and joy, and begin again.

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When Anxiety and Physical Symptoms Show Up: A Gentle Reframe and Ways to Respond

Struggling with anxiety and physical symptoms in everyday stressful moments? Discover a gentle reframe from managing to tending to your experience, learn why self-talk often falls short, and explore compassionate practices that can help soothe your nervous system.

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How to Help a Loved One Through Chronic Pain and/or Flares, While Caring for Yourself Too

When someone you love is living with chronic pain, it can be hard to know how to help, especially when nothing you do can take the pain away. And if you’re in a caregiving role, formally or informally, you may be carrying more than anyone realizes. In this post, I’m sharing real, practical ways to support your loved one without losing sight of yourself in the process.

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The Enchanted Loom: A Mindbody Approach to Chronic Pain Recovery

Weaving new neural pathways and possibilities healing, meaning, and ease. Integratingartful intentionality and the cultivation of liveliness in a way that does not banish the difficult parts of our story, but integrates them more fully into a rich tapestry of experience, honoring the full range of what it means to be human.

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Rethinking Diagnoses: They Often Explain Less Than We Think

Is your diagnosis the whole story — or just the beginning? Let’s invite a fresh perspective on chronic symptoms and nociplastic pain, exploring how labels like fibromyalgia or depression can limit understanding. Drawing on insights from dormitive principles, we open space for curiosity, compassion, and the possibility of true healing.

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Breaking the Pain Cycle: (Re)Learning Wellbeing and Ease

Different things will work for different people, and you’re invited to get curious about what your own recipe for healing will be. A successful treatment will honor your lived experience and story, your values, needs, strengths, and resources. .

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What keeps the pain cycle going?

Hypervigilance, pain catastrophizing, and avoidance are all natural responses to pain — and at the same time they can contribute to a pain-fear-avoidance cycle. Changing these behaviors, starting from a place of curious inquiry, can play a significant part in recovery.

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The Role of Adversity, Personality, Depression, and PTSD in Chronic Pain

Childhood adversity, depression, post-traumatic stress and personality traits can all play a role in chronic pain — and recovery. Healing is about experiencing a greater sense of agency, being in charge of our own healing, and reclaiming our lives.

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How to Know If Your Pain or Symptoms Are Nociplastic

All pain feels like it’s coming from the body, and nociplastic pain and symptoms are just as real as those from injury or tissue damage, so it can be difficult determine whether our pain is nociplastic pain. Learn about its characteristics and how it can be reversed..

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What is nociplastic pain?

Nociplastic pain involves pain creation or augmentation by the central nervous system through pathways that involve predictive processing, threat conditioning, sensory processing and altered pain modulation in the absence of tissue damage.

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What primes or sensitizes our bodymind to persistent pain?

Our bodymind, including our brain and central nervous system, is sensitized to pain when our danger system is on, or when we are exposed to a stimulus that has previously become part of our threat conditioning responses.

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The biopsychosocial model of pain and beyond…

Let’s find new language for our embodied experience that emphasizes oneness and interconnectedness of our bodymind and our ability to heal through intentional practices that account for our whole being and experience.

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